Post an Original Thought, Just Once, Please.

For happy stuff I’m posting a pic of our older fur-beast in her favorite sleeping spot. This is the “don’t make me move” face that grumbles at us every morning when we wake up and have to pee really badly.
The rest of what I want to say is… Well, not-so-unhappy really:

About a year ago, Facebook being a cesspool and all, I began the process of un-friending my “friends” and gradually moving toward closing my FB account. Its algorithm to determine what I’m exposed to sux, to put it mildly. In the past couple months I reversed that decision, but instead focusing on inspiration and business exposure. I culled my “friends” list by well more than half, some of whom I may regret now.

It sounds harsh, and selfish, but this is real life… If you didn’t add value, make me laugh, tell the truth, validate your re-posts, provide motivation, or inspire creativity, you’re gone, period, bye-bye. No room in my life for anything else anymore. Not to be hypocritical… I’m not offended if anyone feels the same about me. Well, maybe I am sometimes, just a little, but who cares. You do you.

Bring something of value to the table!! Participate!
You take care of you for me, and I’ll take care of me for you.
Put on your own oxygen mask first.

I’m a believer in two major sentiments (not necessarily literally, but to take to heart as concepts):

1.) It’s been said that you become the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Yep, it’s nonsense in terms of the number being arbitrary, but take the concept to heart. Surround yourself with people who love and appreciate you, encourage you, believe in you but, importantly, who will also KICK YOUR ASS when you deserve it!
Learn to cultivate temperate positivity. I’m a hermit bicycle mechanic with an engineering background, but my closest confidants and friends are intense, inspirational, the very definition of honorable… People like my brilliant wife Diane, my talented little brother James, and other genius friends who are educators, physicians, trades-people, self-made successful entrepreneurs with two employees or tens of thousands of employees, parents, and numerous others with experience existing and climbing through all “classes” of society. I assume I’m wrong about almost everything, so don’t usually need to be reminded. It’s my natural methodology for learning.

2.) Feed your mind with quality. Just like our bodies benefit from great nutrition, and from appropriate exercise, our minds need to be fed well for creativity, inspiration, relaxation, motivation, and guidance. During this down-time, instead of consuming just TV and movies, try reading classics, religious texts, maybe some inspirational self-help and business/leadership books. Play creative games, work on LEGO projects, try journaling (by hand) and writing, drawing, painting, cooking and baking, welding, sculpting, neighborhood gardening (food!) and cultivating new skills. Take up pottery, raising hens, knitting, or fundraising. Phone or handwrite notes to people you haven’t heard from. What skills do you possess already, so you can contribute more than you consume? Take this time as a profound gift to spend precious time with family, and an opportunity to shape our world, when we pull out of this, into what you’ve always wanted to see.

Negative stuff is a legit part of real life for most of us, and that’s okay, but only if it’s real. It must be acknowledged to be resolved, but please be part of the solution, rather than a mere messenger and divider. Let’s hold each other accountable, with kindness.

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